Relationship Dynamics & Conflict Resolution Flashcards

In the Gottman Method, which communication pattern is referred to as a 'Four Horseman' that involves shutting down emotionally and withdrawing from interaction?

Answer: Stonewalling

Stonewalling occurs when one partner withdraws from interaction, shuts down emotionally, and becomes unresponsive, often as a response to feeling overwhelmed.

A couple reports that arguments always escalate because each partner feels the other never truly listens. As a relationship coach, which technique would BEST address this pattern?

Answer: Teaching reflective listening and structured dialogue

Reflective listening and structured dialogue (e.g., Imago dialogue or active listening exercises) directly address the pattern of not feeling heard by requiring partners to mirror and validate each other.

Which conflict resolution style is characterized by one partner consistently sacrificing their own needs to maintain peace in the relationship?

Answer: Accommodating

Accommodating involves yielding to the other person's preferences at the expense of one's own needs, often to preserve harmony but risking resentment over time.

When using Nonviolent Communication (NVC) in couples coaching, what is the correct sequence of its four components?

Answer: Observations, Feelings, Needs, Requests

NVC, developed by Marshall Rosenberg, follows the sequence: Observations (factual), Feelings (emotional response), Needs (underlying needs), and Requests (specific actionable ask).

A client describes a recurring argument pattern where small triggers lead to explosive fights that leave both partners exhausted and unresolved. This pattern MOST likely reflects which dynamic?

Answer: A negative sentiment override loop

Negative sentiment override, a Gottman concept, occurs when negative emotions color all interactions so that even neutral or positive bids are interpreted negatively, escalating minor triggers into major conflicts.

Which approach to conflict resolution focuses on separating the people from the problem and focusing on interests rather than positions?

Answer: Principled negotiation (Fisher & Ury)

Principled negotiation, developed by Fisher and Ury in 'Getting to Yes,' emphasizes separating people from problems and negotiating on interests rather than entrenched positions.

In systems theory applied to relationships, the concept of 'homeostasis' refers to which dynamic?

Answer: The relationship system's tendency to maintain its current balance even when change is needed

Homeostasis in relationship systems theory describes the system's pull toward maintaining its existing equilibrium, which can resist healthy change even when the current balance is dysfunctional.